Juan David's Newsletter - November 7, 2021
"I want" vs "I should"
Are you doing things because you “want” or because you “should”?
Many people think they’re doing what they’re doing because they want but in reality, oftentimes they’re doing things they think they “should.”
How do you break free?
You start by debunking the assumptions of the shoulds.
Start by asking yourself, “If I don’t do (blank), what happens?” If the “what happens” does not affect much, dropping (blank) is the best option.
How do you start doing what you want?
Not as easy as you may think because 1) you may not know what you want, and 2) internal resistance will come up.
1) How can you know what you want?
Our desires start out fragile. Steven Spielberg said, “Dreams always come from behind you, not right between your eyes. But when you have a dream, it doesn’t often come at you screaming in your face...Sometimes the dream almost whispers.” And you have to listen very carefully...
2) How do you overcome internal resistance?
Probably the hardest one but the one, if overcome can lead to most change.
You can do two things. First, talk to people who know you and understand your goals, ideally Future Selves. Secondly, once you find out your internal resistance, brainstorm ways to reduce friction and deflate those fears.
“I want” vs “I should” is the difference between doing a lot is feeling like doing nothing and doing nothing is feeling like doing a lot.
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See you next week,
Juan David Campolargo